Ah
the outgoing introvert – the most complex and satisfying of all puzzles.
We
have mad layers of depth and feelings…like an onion. Or something. I don’t
know. Just read and get to know what you’re getting yourself into before dating
us, okay?
1.
When we see you after a long day, we might be all irritable and not want to
talk
It
has nothing to do with you. Outgoing introverts, though still introverts at
their core, often need to recharge after a large use of social energy. After a
long day of dealing with people, our social batteries are drained and we need
to unwind and recover, usually alone.
2.
We’re charming creatures and can be the life of the party, but…
You’ll
be surprised how much we actually live in our heads. People often confuse us
for extroverts, but we’re too introspective and over-think too much to be one.
3.
If we like you, we really like you.
We
don’t waste our time with people we’re not completely crazy about. If we agreed
to go on a date with you, we like you. Take it as a huge compliment.
4.
We have times when we’re weird with our phones.
Some
days we can talk for hours, but sometimes we’re not so good at replying and
talking on the phone. Don’t take it personally – we screen our phone calls,
even from our closest friends. Outgoing introverts sometimes hate the phone
because it’s all, like, intrusive and tears our minds away from whatever we’re
deeply focusing on (and we are always deeply focusing on something). Our mind
doesn’t change direction easily. Listening to one thing and seeing something
else is a lot of sensory input piled on top of everything that’s already going
on in our heads.
5.
But don’t worry, in person we’ll listen to you for hours.
We
have spectrum of introversion, so we’re good listeners. We’ll always be
naturally in tune with how you’re feeling, so we’ll be able to see through any
front you put up and make you jump into the deep end.
6.
We need to dip our foot in the pool first.
We
need time to warm up, so, like, chill. We tend not to outwardly express our
feelings and spill our whole life story in the first hour of meeting you. Or
the first year.
7.
Our energy level depends on our environment.
Yes,
we can get annoyed easily. If we vibe with the crowd, we can get our energy
from human interactions. But if we don’t, we’ll start to get really
introspective and reflective, and tend to withdraw into ourselves. It’s kinda
like a hit or miss. We’re very selectively social. But it’s not because we
dislike people – it’s actually the opposite. We dislike the barriers like small
talk (which often comes with going out) creates between people, and try to
avoid it at all costs.
8.
We kinda hate the typical first date.
Maybe
it’s ’cause we hate small talk or something. Over-thinking is like a part of us
so at times we enjoy a break from our heads. Be willing to go somewhere
authentic where we won’t have to awkwardly sit across from each other asking
the typical “get to know you” questions.
9.
You’ll think we are flirty with everyone.
Okay
here’s the thing, when we inevitably have to interact with people, we make it
seem like there’s nothing in the world we’d rather be doing. It’s ’cause we’re,
like, overly sensitive and so we go out of our way to make other people feel
comfortable and happy. We’re intuitive and outgoing at the same time.
10.
We can see through bullshit.
So
don’t try to deceive us. We’re kinda like a human lie detector. We will always
find out the truth….. just kidding. But for real, we often have a keen eye for
detail, noticing things that may escape others around us.
Research
has found that introverts pay more attention to detail and exhibit increased
brain activity when processing visual information. A study shows that the brain
of an introvert weighs internal cues more strongly than external motivational
and reward cues. Since outgoing introverts are a unique blend of both an
extrovert and introvert, we rely on our own internal instincts and logic to make
decisions and form beliefs.
So
basically you’re screwed. In a good way.
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