From learning to live with a
new human being to adjusting to a whole new family, compromises and adjustments
are the name of the game. The unfortunate part is that more often than not
everyone tends to blame the women when things go wrong. Well we blame them too.
But not for the reasons you think.
Not knowing their value: One
of the biggest mistakes women make is underplaying their own strengths in a
marriage.
Giving too much: Marriage is a
give-and-take affair. If you find yourself at the giving end and don’t see any
efforts from his side then you are definitely at fault.
Relying on another person for
your happiness: While it’s great to have a partner who knows exactly what makes
you happy, relying on your man to dictate your happiness will never work out
well.
Depending too much: Whether
you are a working woman or a stay-at-home wife, being emotionally independent
will always give you an edge in the relationship.
Over thinking: There are some
things that are just not meant to be. So stop over analysing and just let
certain things go.
Feeling too guilty: Give the
overactive guilt hormones a rest and stop feeling guilty about everything. The
constant guilt causes you unwanted stress and relationship troubles.
Not giving enough space: While
it’s great to do things in twos, don’t give up on your and his personal space.
Keeping score: Tit for tat
doesn’t sound too good for a relationship. So quit keeping scores and let go of
past fights and misunderstandings.
Going by the popular
definition of happy: Each couple has their own way of working things out. So
don’t go chasing those popular relationship goals, making yourself unhappy in
the process.
Not having a life: Women tend
to dedicate too much to the relationship, in the process giving up on their own
dreams and goals.
Not trusting enough: Unless
you have this factor in place you can’t stay happy in any relationship.
Passive aggression: He asks
you what’s wrong, you say nothing and then you expect him to know exactly what
went wrong! Sounds familiar? Just tell him when and what upsets you and let go
of the drama.
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